Book 34, Hadith 65
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Narrated AbuJurayy Jabir ibn Salim al-Hujaymi: I saw a man whose opinion was accepted by the people, and whatever he said they submitted to it. I asked: Who is he? They said: This is the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). I said: On you be peace, Messenger of Allah, twice. He said: Do not say "On you be peace," for "On you be peace" is a greeting for the dead, but say "Peace be upon you". I asked: You are the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon you)? He said: I am the Messenger of Allah Whom you call when a calamity befalls you and He removes it; when you suffer from drought and you call Him, He grows…Narrated AbuJurayy Jabir ibn Salim al-Hujaymi: I saw a man whose opinion was accepted by the people, and whatever he said they submitted to it. I asked: Who is he? They said: This is the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). I said: On you be peace, Messenger of Allah, twice. He said: Do not say "On you be peace," for "On you be peace" is a greeting for the dead, but say "Peace be upon you". I asked: You are the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon you)? He said: I am the Messenger of Allah Whom you call when a calamity befalls you and He removes it; when you suffer from drought and you call Him, He grows food for you; and when you are in a desolate land or in a desert and your she-camel strays and you call Him, He returns it to you. I said: Give me some advice. He said: Do not abuse anyone. He said that he did not abuse a freeman, or a slave, or a camel or a sheep thenceforth. He said: Do not look down upon any good work, and when you speak to
How the Prophet ﷺ modelled 3 behaviours here
Emotional Accountability
Taking full responsibility for her own happiness and emotional state instead of blaming her husband for how she feels.
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This hadith also models: Assuming Best Intentions Cultivating Tranquility
Assuming Best Intentions
Approaching conflicts with a desire to understand his perspective and asking questions rather than jumping to furious conclusions.
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This hadith also models: Emotional Accountability Cultivating Tranquility
Cultivating Tranquility
Allowing him time to decompress when he walks through the door and greeting him with warmth rather than immediate demands.
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This hadith also models: Emotional Accountability Assuming Best Intentions