Common Mistakes

Patterns that damage marriages. Learn what to avoid and what to do instead.

Confusing Preferences with Morals

Treating your specific way of doing things as the only correct way, and making your husband feel wrong for differing.

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Expecting Mind Reading

Expecting your husband to inherently know what you need or want without clearly telling him.

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Letting the Marriage Become Secondary

Allowing the needs of children or outside commitments to completely overshadow the marital bond.

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Micromanaging Household Contributions

Hovering over your husband or criticizing his methods when he is trying to help with household tasks.

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Public Criticism and Mockery

Making sarcastic jokes or pointing out your husband's flaws in front of friends, family, or children.

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The Doorstep Dump

Unloading a day's worth of stress, complaints, and demands the moment your husband walks through the door.

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The Ice Queen Routine

Giving the silent treatment and withdrawing emotionally instead of communicating when you are hurt.

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Venting Outside the Marriage

Complaining about your husband or discussing intimate marital problems with friends or extended family.

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Weaponizing Absolute Language

Using words like always or never during disagreements to invalidate your partner's efforts.

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Withholding Physical Connection

Treating physical intimacy as a chore, a bargaining chip, or an optional addition to the relationship.

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