Weaponizing Absolute Language
Using words like always or never during disagreements to invalidate your partner's efforts.
Absolute language instantly invalidates any positive efforts he has made in the past. It shifts the conversation from addressing a specific issue to attacking his character, which guarantees a defensive and unproductive argument.
What this looks like
Telling him "You never help me clean up after dinner" because he forgot one time.
Saying "You always put your work before your family" during a stressful week.
Using the word "divorce" as a manipulative threat during a highly emotional argument.